As many brides are apt to do, I have been scouring the blogs, wedding sites and forums for ideas or even sources of inspirations. I can't pinpoint the exact moment but somewhere in the middle of all that, I started viewing these sources as guidelines or, worse, "must haves".
Instead of viewing each DIY idea or even ceremony element as a "Oh, that's cute!" idea, I started viewing the posts as "you need this for your event to be a success." I even read on a website that in order for my wedding to be seen as a success, I needed to distribute favors to guests.
Whoa! What? The whole shindig isn't centered around the amount of flowers in the bouquet, how many vintage chalkboards I am using or if there are poms decorating the aisles. To me, the event is a success if I can call myself a wife at the end of the day.
I will be frank. I got overwhelmed with trying to decipher the ideas from what others considered an ideal wedding. I think the candy bar works for some but I don't see giving guests a sugar bomb the secret to making my day special.
So, I took a break from the blogs, posts and sites. I took some time to regroup my views on what I would like to see for my big day. Mike and I discussed what was important to us, what we want to share with our guests and what was necessary to make that happen.
The two of us realized that what will make our day a success isn't in birdcage centerpieces or rosettes but rather in keeping the ceremony authentic to us. If it is something we would like to see for our day or share, it will come across as genuine to our guests. If we are comfortable with the day, our guests will see the magic that is between us and that will leave a longer lasting impression than any custom napkin will.
After we realized that, there were several things the two of us cut from the list of "to have", including: favors, assigned seats and aisle decor.
It's not about the money you spend but how you spend it. Make sure you are investing in something that is authentically you and not what blogs, family or even friends tell you is necessary. It is your day -- allow YOU to shine through.
It was a lesson I'm glad I learned early on.
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